There’s a reason nice guys finish last

OPINION

There’s a reason nice guys finish last and don’t get mad, but it has nothing to do with women overlooking them and everything to do with these supposed ‘nice’ guys. 

I’ve been thinking about the nice boy complex thanks to BINGE’s FBoy Island. We aren’t even halfway through the gloriously messy season, and it has already been a masterclass in seeing what men think women want.

Clearly, these shirtless men think women want lovers who are reluctant to wear a shirt and are very keen to get the hair gel out. 

The other reoccurring theme has been men putting themselves into the nice guy bucket. Not because anyone else has actually called them friendly, don’t be silly! This is purely a self-diagnosed compliment. 

They identify as nice guys and ex[ect to be applauded for it. Here’s the problem if someone calls themselves nice … they usually aren’t. 
 

Don’t shoot the messenger here. 

If someone has to tell you they are something … they probably aren’t. If you have to announce it – your actions clearly aren’t speaking loud enough. 

It would be like me wandering around saying how athletic I am. Sure, I can shout it from the rooftops, but I haven’t played a sport since I worked out that telling my PE Teacher that I had a never-ending period meant I could lay on the grass and busy myself perfecting my side fringe.

Genuine nice guys don’t scream about their niceness from the rooftops. They are just quietly nice, and you notice it, and 9 times out of 10 that makes them very attractive. 

I’m talking about Chris Hemsworth at the beach attractive; OK, well, maybe I got a bit carried away there, but being nice is a very alluring trait. 

The problem is that it is always the men that bang on about what sweeties they are that end up being awful.

Worse still, their standard for what makes them ‘nice’ is appallingly low. 

I’ve dated men who actually used to think it was a bonus that they didn’t cheat on me. Yes, they thought it made them nice that they didn’t pull a Michael Clarke on me.

See the problem? Just because someone says they are nice doesn’t mean they actually are. 

The whole joy of this reality show is watching men trying to prove what makes them nice instead of an Fboy. 

Seriously, it becomes clear men don’t know what makes up a nice guy. 

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On Abbie Chatfield’s FBoy Island, it is too early to see who is nice. Well, besides Caleb – his vagina comments have put him firmly in the bad guy camp. 

Most men are yet to show their true colours but I am instantly suspicious of any man that has already self-declared that he is nice. 

I know a common gripe men seem to have is that they feel that women don’t appreciate niceness. I don’t think that has ever been true. 

Who doesn’t like someone that is nice?

Being nice is sexy. Nice guys are generous and buy you dinner or are thoughtful and send you flowers or sweeties that make an effort with your friends. 

Tick, tick, tick. 

All of these are good qualities, the kind of qualities that most women are desperately searching for. 

Instead, we usually get stuck with guys that describe themselves as entrepreneurs, aka they don’t have any superannuation. 

When I first met my boyfriend, the very thing that attracted me to him was his all-round niceness. 

He was good to his mates, kind to his mum, interested in my life and genuinely considerate of the people around him. 

Nice guys don’t finish last, but men that claim they’re nice while not doing anything nice for anyone always do.

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